How can you improve your relationship?

Nov 25, 2014

Ideas to nurture your relationship include:

  • Talk about your day and the things that both excite or worry you.
  • Spend time alone together and ensure it is a priority.
  • Celebrate the good times together.
  • Express affection and give your partner thoughtful little surprises like a small gift, a flower from the garden on their bedside table, a favourite treat, an unpacked dishwasher or a special meal.
  • Develop common interests, though allow time for independent interests as well.
  • Listen to your partner and communicate your needs. Don’t wait for your partner to try to guess what is going on for you.
  • Talk about sex and what is good about your sex life and what, if any, issues there are.
  • Tell your partner when you are happy or unhappy about something – honestly and respectfully – and encourage your partner to do the same. This is better than avoiding difficult topics.
  • Try to find solutions that are suitable for both of you. Prepare to compromise.
  • Respect and accept both your differences and your similarities. Try not to make judgements when your partner makes mistakes, or doesn’t do things your way.
  • Aim to be flexible and willing to change or try something new.
  • Be supportive in the good and the challenging times, and ask for help when you cannot cope with a situation.
  • Share the load – agree on who will do what in the household and to what standard.
  • Make some time just for yourself and encourage your partner to do the same.
  • Take responsibility for your actions and feelings.

One small change can sometimes make a big difference.

How Relationships Australia can help you

If you find there are aspects of your relationship where you struggle, consider talking with a relationship counsellor or attending a Relationships Skills course